Are you being selfish enough?

Are you being selfish enough?

“Caring supremely or unduly for one’s self; regarding one’s own comfort, advantage, in disregard, or at the expense, of those of others.” That’s the dictionary definition of selfishness. No wonder we don’t want to be considered selfish. And yet I have clients who make the question, “Am I being selfish?” the key factor in making […]

How to stop rushing through life

How to stop rushing through life

Recently I’ve noticed my mind getting into a bad habit. A bad habit with three parts: thinking about how much I have to do, racing ahead to the next thing on the list, and feeling resistance to doing that next thing, because it’s standing in the way of the next three things I have to […]

Are You Afraid of Losing Your Edge?

Are You Afraid of Losing Your Edge?

In his podcast interview with Krista Tippett, creator of the radio show On Being, Tim Ferriss said that people recognize the benefits of meditation but they “tell me they’re afraid of losing their ‘edge.’” “What does that mean exactly?” I wondered. That if we meditate — if we feel at peace and start to accept ‘what is’ — that […]

The Real Reason You Don’t Focus on What’s Important

The Real Reason You Don’t Focus on What’s Important

Bruce Lee said, “The successful warrior is the average man, but with laser-like focus.” He should have added: laser-like focus on what’s important. Because, you know what’s most important, don’t you — what actions will move the needle in your business. And yet you get caught up in things that are urgent and demanding immediate […]

How To Micro-Cize Your Life

How To Micro-Cize Your Life

It always takes me by surprise. When I give my presentation on “how to get a mental six-pack,” I ask the audience, so what’s your biggest takeaway? In my mind, I’m thinking it’ll be something like “I didn’t realize we have to master our biology in order to change” or “now I have a model […]

“I See You.” How to Catch People Doing Things Right…

“I See You.” How to Catch People Doing Things Right…

I was coaching a healthcare executive who’s caught between a rock and a hard place. The staff at his hospital are unhappy and at one point threatened to quit en masse if changes weren’t made. Why? They feel taken for granted and unappreciated. This executive is someone with great integrity and commitment to developing his […]

Are You Tolerating Too Much?

Are You Tolerating Too Much?

Wait, Renita, what are you talking about? Don’t you always say we have to get comfortable being uncomfortable? Well, let’s make a distinction between two kinds of uncomfortable: there’s the discomfort of going into the unknown, the unfamiliar, taking action when we don’t know how it’ll play out. And then there’s the discomfort where we […]