How to know for sure it will work out

How to know for sure it will work out

How do I know it will work out? In working with 1,000+ clients over the past 10 years, I’ve heard countless variations on this question. How do I know … … if I should start my own company. … which job offer to take. … if I should reach out to someone. … if the […]

Be careful what you wish for

Be careful what you wish for

You know the phrase, “Be careful what you wish for”? In the weeks since I got back from my cycling vacation in Spain last month, I’ve been saying to people — with great conviction — “I want to spend less time in front of my computer.” Now, what I meant was, I want to spend […]

Are You Tolerating Too Much?

Are You Tolerating Too Much?

Wait, Renita, what are you talking about? Don’t you always say we have to get comfortable being uncomfortable? Well, let’s make a distinction between two kinds of uncomfortable: there’s the discomfort of going into the unknown, the unfamiliar, taking action when we don’t know how it’ll play out. And then there’s the discomfort where we […]

‘Tis the Season to Be Emotional, Part I: How To Stay In Control (And Avoid Regret) – Part 1

‘Tis the Season to Be Emotional, Part I: How To Stay In Control (And Avoid Regret) – Part 1

RIDING THE ROLLERCOASTER Ah, the holiday season. That time of year when we experience those delightful emotional extremes — from the joy and exhilaration of spending time with people we care about to the discomfort of performance reviews and dinner with difficult in-laws. Even if, on balance, you enjoy the holidays, when your emotions start […]

Dancing Cop Gets Into Traffic “Flow”

Dancing Cop Gets Into Traffic “Flow”

Often, what keeps us from getting in the flow is a mismatch between the challenge of an activity and our ability. Either the challenge is too great and we feel anxious; or not stimulating enough, and we are bored. The trick is to find a way to raise or decrease the challenge to better correspond […]

How To Feel In Total Control, Even When You’re Not

How To Feel In Total Control, Even When You’re Not

Doesn’t it seem as if the more the pace of modern life increases, the more we scramble to keep things under control? In the movie Click, Adam Sandler’s character was given a universal remote control that allowed him to pause, rewind and fast-forward to manipulate the events of his life. But although we may indulge […]