The “secret” to authentic influence

The “secret” to authentic influence

People think that to have influence you have to: Have fancy credentials (an Ivy League degree or experience! worked at brand-name company!) Be a brilliant expert who always knows the right answer Have a big title and recognized status Have an impressive track record (sold three companies! has thousands of followers!) Be a charming extrovert and eloquent speaker (preferably with […]

Are you being selfish enough?

Are you being selfish enough?

“Caring supremely or unduly for one’s self; regarding one’s own comfort, advantage, in disregard, or at the expense, of those of others.” That’s the dictionary definition of selfishness. No wonder we don’t want to be considered selfish. And yet I have clients who make the question, “Am I being selfish?” the key factor in making […]

How I’m Breaking My Emotional Addiction

How I’m Breaking My Emotional Addiction

Standing at the crowded coffee bar, I waited patiently to catch the attention of the server frantically busy filling orders. A tall German woman strode up next to me and, with no hesitation, called out her order for two cappuccinos. I looked at her, incredulous, feeling the urge to slap her arm and say: “Are […]

Are You Afraid To Go All Out?

Are You Afraid To Go All Out?

In one of the more heart-wrenching stories from the Rio Olympics, US cyclist Mara Abbott was one of two leading the pack in the women’s cycling race as they climbed the steep 19% incline. Racing down the descent, the other cyclist crashed and Mara was alone in the lead — until, 200 meters from the finish line (and a gold medal), […]

The Time I Got Busted Not Paying Attention

The Time I Got Busted Not Paying Attention

On Saturday afternoons, I take one of my favorite class workouts, Forza, based on samurai sword fighting, with martial arts fitness instructor Ilaria Montagnani. After the warm-up and technical exercises, we learn two combinations, each a series of 16 moves – half cuts, diagonals, horizontals, for example – combined with squats and specific footwork moving […]